Oh mama, you’re pregnant– congratulations!
What’s next? Well for a lot of mamas, this news brings about a lot of questions. Is it a boy or girl, perhaps twins? What will the baby’s name be? How will you design the nursery? How are you feeling? What should you eat? What size is the baby today?
While many pregnant women are eager and excited to cover all of the bases, many of us are guilty of skipping the details of childbirth education. Sometimes this is due to fear, sometimes it’s not realizing it’s something you need to learn, and sometimes it’s just simply being overwhelmed. The truth is, the birth process is inevitable, which means it is important to educate yourself so that you can make informed and empowered decisions. The goal is for you to be an active participant in your birth plan. Growing up, my mother equipped me with this, “it is your body and your baby and only you know what is best.” Whether it’s your first or your fifth childbirth experience, it is important to educate yourself, trust your instincts, and to speak up.
When it comes to your childbirth experience, being prepared can make all the difference. In order to help get the ball rolling, we’ve compiled a few of the most common questions new mamas have about the birthing process. While this is by no means a comprehensive list of questions, our hope is that this helps you get the wheels turning and opens up the door for further education and exploration.
Would you like an obstetrician or a midwife?
First decision: choose your care provider. Would you like an Obstetrician (OB-GYN) or midwife? While both are highly trained and certified, it’s important to understand the difference. Your experience with an obstetrician will often be more clinical (think of the classic birth scene in a movie). The approach of midwives is more intimate and holistic. Obstetricians deliver in the hospital and midwives can deliver at home, a birth center, or in a hospital. Most women report that the main differences between an OB-GYN and a midwife are that visits with a midwife will be longer (around 30 minutes) and that the focus will be not just on the health of your baby, but also on you and your physical/emotional well being. Some midwives even do all the visits in the comfort of your home– which many mamas love! If you think you may want the support of pain medication, both obstetricians and midwives are able to ensure you receive that support in the hospital. Both providers are open to you having a doula (midwives have traditionally always used the help and support of doulas, whereas many obstetricians are more recently accepting the practice of mothers having a doula present).
Speaking of doulas– would you like a doula?
A doula is a trained professional who provides continuous physical, emotional, and informational support to a mother before, during, and shortly after childbirth to help her achieve the healthiest, most satisfying birth experience possible. What is great about a doula is that they accompany you throughout your pregnancy, your entire birth, and postpartum. Doulas are a wonderful resource to help provide you with resources for your decision-making. During birthing, they never leave your side. They do not make decisions for you, but they can help you navigate your choices during your birth, provide emotional support to your partner, and help you as the mother with pain management by providing a variety of relaxation techniques. Studies have proven that when mothers have a doula present, rates of interventions and cesareans are lower and attachment to baby and breastfeeding rates are higher.